Diva Girl steps on my toes all the time. I try to keep my ego in check. I am always asking myself when and how to address her sassy ways. I am the adult and I have all the tools to build a relationship of mutual respect and understanding. I am finding that is a hard thing to create between a 7 year old Diva and her teacher.
You know those wise sayings you read and you think wow that is profound. And you think how the world would be a better place if people could just learn that lesson. Then one day it comes back to bite you and you think crap, this is one of those things I have to learn. That is me and Diva Girl. Everything that annoys me about her is a thing that is in me. I read a wise quote about that once. Something about whatever you see in others that gets you the most riled up, it’s probably because it is something that is in the core of you that you need to examine. Yep, Diva Girl is putting me through my paces. She gets me all riled up. She talks when I am talking. She says the opposite of everything I say. She seems to find me completely boring and inadequate. And she does this very loudly. When I give her THE LOOK she gives it right back.
One day after school I decide that our two inner Diva’s need to come to an agreement. So I sit her down for a private talk. What’s going on I ask her. What’s with the bad attitude. You always seem angry. She looks me straight in the eye and says, you don’t listen to me. My mind races and my mouth opens to make a dozen excuses and then I shut my mouth, and look deep inside. She’s right. I don’t listen to her. And she is not going to just sit around and be unheard. She is important and what she has to say, it needs to be heard.
In that moment I realize that there is only one thing to say . I am sorry. I will try harder to listen. Do you forgive me? She smiles with the big spirit that is inside her. I bask in her pure Diva.
It can still be pretty rocky between us. We both have our passion, and a voice that demands to be heard but we are working on it.
Recently the class was getting ready for closing meeting and most of the kids were waiting at our meeting spot. I was checking in with stragglers and heading over when I hear Diva Girl commanding the class. “Shhh, the Queen is coming!”
Nice to know she has my back.